There comes a time every year to decide where you are going to live and whether it will be with the roommates you are currently living with or if you are going to venture out with new friends.
Here at Radford University that time of the year begins in October and ends in November; which doesn’t give an adequate amount of time to truly get to know the people you will be living with for the next 365 days.
In some instances, this works out perfectly by making lasting friendships and a great environment to live in.
In other cases though, it is not the outcome, leaving you stuck with the “Slob,”
the “Obnoxious One,” the “Hypocrite” or a deadly combination of all three.
This then begs the question: how do you deal with that troublesome roommate?
The number one tip for handling these types of roommates is to take a step back and calm down before you say anything.
You do not want to end up having a screaming match and not resolving anything. Instead, think before you say anything and plan out your argument.
Another crucial tip to follow when dealing with difficult roommates is to ignore the little stuff.
Say you come home and there is stuff all over the coffee table, shoes strewn around along with backpacks, papers on the floor, crumpled Jimmy Johns bags laying on the couch, and empty or half-filled mugs of tea sitting out.
This is a little issue that is insanely annoying but not large enough to throw a fit over.
In this case a simple “Hey, can you pick up the living room please?” is more than enough and usually gets the point across.
The time to voice concerns is the day when your roommate decides to have a “small, outside only party,” which we all know is code for “everyone and their mother is invited all day party.”
This then is the prime time to explain your thoughts on why it may not be the best idea.
Start with calming down and thoroughly thinking about how to word your argument. You do not want to be rude when trying to ask them to tone down their party.
Then pull your roommate aside and explain why you feel the way you do and for the most part, your roommate will understand where you are coming.
On the off chance that they do not understand your feelings and decide to continue with their actions of being inconsiderate by either throwing parties or leaving the kitchen and every other common area of the apartment a mess, just remember one thing: breathe.
You will know that in the long run you were the bigger person in those difficult situations and you were always polite.
Then tell yourself you only have so many more months with them and that next year will be tremendously better. Those last two months will fly by even if you fear they will be the longest of your life.